Meet Karen

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My name is Karen Lanser. I’ve been married for 40 years to a man who has been an exceptional father to my three grown daughters. My daughters are extraordinary women and continue to inspire me with the way they live their lives. My 8 grandchildren delight me in the most meaningful ways. I am employed p/t as both a family counsellor and life coach. Most recently, I have been trained as an EMDR therapist.

I’ve been a devoted student of Debbie Ford since seeing her on Oprah in 2001.  I incorporated my own company (Miracles! Your Center for Well-Being Inc.) in the hopes that I could be as inspiring to others as she has been to me. I’ve called both my business and this blog Miracles! because miracles are defined by A Course in Miracles as ‘a shift in perception from fear to love’.  I truly hope with my musings in this blog that I am fostering more love and less fear …

Despite my intrinsic desire to make a difference in the world, I have historically resisted being in the limelight.  This blog is part of my ongoing effort to bust myself out of my intense fear of public visibility/rejection. I tremble every single time I post something because I usually include some of my own unflattering stories and personal ‘aha’s … which makes me feel incredibly vulnerable.  I do this so that readers will know that I don’t claim to have it all figured out myself because I am a counselor and life coach.  I, too, am a work in progress.  All transformation begins with awareness …

A little bit of trivia:

I am a recovering perfectionist and I try to control my world less and ride the waves more, but I am not adventurous, yet.

I’ve always been better at ‘doing’ than at ‘being’ … but … I’m really committed to becoming more authentic, vulnerable and cheeky fun (no matter how long it takes).

I’m not very good at making small talk … at all. Well, I might be good at it, but honestly, I don’t enjoy it. 

I have wrinkly bags appearing under my eyes and wonder why I did not appreciate the blessings of taut skin when I was younger.

I really, really admire people who are daring and playful.

I prefer sensible shoes 0ver heels.

I am reminded over and over that best of friendships are to be deeply cherished and not ever taken for granted. 

I acknowledge that my husband is a better judge of character (on first impression) but I am far more organized.

I make time to watch “So You Think You Can Dance” and “The Voice” because I think it takes so much courage to pursue your dreams and risk yourself in such a public forum. 

I surprised myself when I discovered that I really love to run. I have also discovered the joy of gardening and nurturing flowers.

I like to wake up extra early in the morning and sip coffee (with 18% cream and two sweeteners) out of a huge ceramic mug and contemplate life … it was even more emotionally nourishing when I could snuggle with my precious side-kick Skruffi. She passed away on August 24th, 2015.  She was 15 years of age joy. She had the most gorgeous eyes … and … was even more beautiful on the inside. 

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Skruffi … 200 – 2015

I really dislike Val Kilmer (not that I know him personally!)  but have firmly decided that I will not watch any more movies he stars in. I love Anthony Hopkins (wish I knew him personally!) and will make a point to see whatever he is cast in. 

I discovered that food tastes the best with fresh ground pepper and sea salt … well maybe not toast.

I despise skiing and I love Italy. 

I love to play board games with my family and I cherish all our family gatherings.  

I wish I could start over in terms of parenting – I am humbled to recognize that I messed up my children’s lives with my perfectionism as much as my Dad messed up mine with alcoholism.

I love my home and I thoroughly love to be in it.

I acknowledge that attitude is more important to happiness than reality. 

I still adore my GUCCI watch with all it’s interchangeable colored bezels. 

I like that shorter hair doesn’t blow in your eyes as much. 

I have gained 30 lbs since I got married … but I’ll buy bigger clothes before I’ll spend countless hours fighting mother nature in an attempt to stay as thin as the magazines suggest I should be. 

I really, really, really like to laugh. One of my favorite quotes is “We do not laugh because we are happy, we are happy because we laugh” (William James). 

I have become less talkative and more attentive with age. 

I don’t like to read in bed. Or watch TV. I would never have a TV in my bedroom … unless I am in a lovely hotel.

I love a nice Malbec in the winter and an icy margarita in the hot summer. 

I did NOT want a smart phone … but my husband bought me one at the suggestion of my daughters. I LOVE my smart phone.

Hearing my children and grandchildren laughing stirs my heart.

I love browsing through introspective and thought provoking websites/blog sites.  

I can’t stay awake past 9:00pm to watch a movie. 

You would all love my daughters if you got to meet them … they are so rich in character – I would LIKE them even if I didn’t LOVE them so much.

People have always told me I had a way with words …that I should write a book.  Seems like a bit of a stretch … I’m still self-conscious about blogging.

But, here I am …with three blog sites … and completely surprised by how meaningful it is to me. You can also find some wonderings and wanderings at “You Can Live a Great Life Anyway …” or at “Better Because of You …”

Hoping to spark some great conversation …Karen

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  1. Colleen Banning
    Aug 17, 2013 @ 17:44:33

    Karen, you’re an inspiration to me, love your honesty and openness! My daughter Amber has always loved your family and I will always appreciate how much you and your family have supported her too.

    Much of what you’ve said could be my own life story. I’ve learned more from my three girls about living as they have from me.
    Love your website! And love fresh ground pepper!

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    • Karen Lanser
      Aug 17, 2013 @ 18:02:00

      Awe … thank you Colleen. Your words touch my heart and bring tears to my eyes. Oh my … and how our family loves your (our) Amber! Thank you so very much for taking the time to connect here! ♡

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  2. The Presents of Presence
    Jul 13, 2015 @ 09:31:53

    I love all of your blogs! This is a great ‘Meet Karen’ post. You are really special and I’m happy we’ve connected. Your blogs are so chock full of positivity! I bet your clients are so grateful for your inner wisdom.

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  3. Sherri Gallant
    Jan 05, 2016 @ 16:22:24

    Hello, my dear friend. I found your blog by accident today and I have been immersed in it since. I am deeply touched.; in fact, you’ve moved me to tears. I love who you’ve become and what you are doing …. how your life has played out since the days when we first met, nearly 40 years ago. The pearls you are giving from your heart and from your wisdom are enriching people’s lives, I am certain. I just wanted to let you know I was here, visiting and enjoying. God bless.

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    • Karen Lanser
      Jan 05, 2016 @ 16:48:33

      Oh my gosh … what a wonderful blessing to ‘see’ you here! Thank you for your kind and encouraging words … it touches me deeply to hear that my sharing was meaningful to you. Thank you for letting me know you stopped by … I hope you will stop by again! Big hugs to you Sherri … and … may the warm wonders of joy and delight be abundant for you and yours in the coming year! 💚💛💜

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  4. Miriam
    May 23, 2016 @ 19:42:57

    Hi Karen, I thought I’d already commented on this page but obviously not. Just wanted to let you know I love your bio page. Your enthusiasm for life and gratitude for what you have and do shines through. So glad we’ve connected and I look forward to reading more of your wonderful posts and getting to know you more through our respective blogs. Cheers again! 🙂

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  5. Robin Tajiri
    May 27, 2016 @ 08:52:51

    I’m so happy, grateful and blessed that you are my friend ❤️

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  6. my one life. today
    Jun 21, 2016 @ 05:52:54

    We had such a fascinating exchange yesterday that I came back to read up more on yours. I now understand even better why my blog posts resonated so much with you. It’s a bit scary weird how similar the patterns are that we have developed, and it appears because of similar stories. Every childhood is different and, thankfully, I did not have to suffer a parent’s alcoholism or foster homes. I do know what it feels like not to have a safe home, parents that are strong and reliable and caring, even though they might have tried. Mental illness, suicide, and suicide attempts are also part of my family’s story. I’m a bit less of a pleaser, though certainly not a revolutionary either. But I certainly am a perfectionist (also recovering now) and a die-hard performer. It’s cost me dearly, my marriage, my job satisfaction, and sometimes also my health. What I find, and what I also see reflected in your blog, is that it’s one thing to realize how we work, what our coping mechanisms are, and a totally different thing to change them, let alone live without a new coping mechanism, trust in life, that is. The part in the middle, you know, when you know what’s going on but you can’t figure out to save your life what and how else to do, that’s one of the most disgusting feelings I know. I also feel running helps, and gardening, and drinking tea from beautiful ceramic tea cups (I love the Japanese Hagi Yaki ones). And self-care. Above all else. I feel you have come such a long way, doing similar things. That’s very inspiring and gives me a lot of hope. Oh, and, you don’t seem fake at all when you’re writing. It’s very admirably authentic, vulnerable to the core, and touching my heart. All the very best for your journey.

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    • Karen Lanser
      Jun 21, 2016 @ 06:19:06

      I, too, was struck by the instant connection I felt in our exchange … and … as I met your heart through your words. And I so deeply agree … traversing the part in the middle … knowing where you can’t live but having no sense of how to exist on a different plane …. Arghhhhhh. Absolutely awful. I finally found the bridge from where I was to where I wanted to be when I discovered the work of Debbie Ford. Her book, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers was the catalyst for my liberation from the patterns of my past. I truly have come such a long way … and … am so grateful to have the new tools I picked up as I challenged all the pain filled ‘stories’ I was carrying from my past.

      It sounds like your path has been full of prickles as well. It’s seems like we’ve both been determined to find the blessings in our challenges. And … I am committed to claiming them. I am also tickled to share this space with you and I look forward to getting to know you better! I would love to know your name, if you don’t mind. With warmest smiles, Karen 😊

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      • my one life. today
        Jun 21, 2016 @ 06:26:48

        I read about Debbie Ford on your blog and already marked her work as a must-read. I sure wish it will have a similar effect on me. I’ve been doing so much work already, and I really have come a long way already. I feel I’m very, ver close to either a break-down or a break-through, hopefully the latter…
        I have decided to write my blog anonymously, for the time being. Part of my job duties not to be too public with my opinions in my real name. But I’ll let you know through your contact form 🙂

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  7. thecoffeebeanbrain
    Oct 24, 2016 @ 03:18:53

    Glad to find (and follow) your blog Karen! 🙂

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