My name is Karen Lanser. I’ve been married for 39 years to a man who has been an exceptional father to my three grown daughters. My daughters are extraordinary women and continue to inspire me with the way they live their lives. My 8 grandchildren delight me in the most meaningful ways. I am employed p/t as both a family counsellor and life coach. Most recently, I have been trained as an EMDR therapist.
I’ve been a devoted student of Debbie Ford since seeing her on Oprah in 2001. I incorporated my own company (Miracles! Your Center for Well-Being Inc.) in the hopes that I could be as inspiring to others as she has been to me. I’ve called both my business and this blog Miracles! because miracles are defined by A Course in Miracles as ‘a shift in perception from fear to love’. I truly hope with my musings in this blog that I am fostering more love and less fear …
Despite my intrinsic desire to make a difference in the world, I have historically resisted being in the limelight. This blog is part of my ongoing effort to bust myself out of my intense fear of public visibility/rejection. I tremble every single time I post something because I usually include some of my own unflattering stories and personal ‘aha’s … which makes me feel incredibly vulnerable. I do this so that readers will know that I don’t claim to have it all figured out myself because I am a counselor and life coach. I, too, am a work in progress. All transformation begins with awareness …
A little bit of trivia:
I am a recovering perfectionist and I try to control my world less and ride the waves more, but I am not adventurous, yet.
I’ve always been better at ‘doing’ than at ‘being’ … but … I’m really committed to becoming more authentic, vulnerable and cheeky fun (no matter how long it takes).
I’m not very good at making small talk … at all. Well, I might be good at it, but honestly, I don’t enjoy it.
I have wrinkly bags appearing under my eyes and wonder why I did not appreciate the blessings of taut skin when I was younger.
I really, really admire people who are daring and playful.
I prefer sensible shoes 0ver heels.
I am reminded over and over that best of friendships are to be deeply cherished and not ever taken for granted.
I acknowledge that my husband is a better judge of character (on first impression) but I am far more organized.
I make time to watch “So You Think You Can Dance” and “The Voice” because I think it takes so much courage to pursue your dreams and risk yourself in such a public forum.
I surprised myself when I discovered that I really love to run. I have also discovered the joy of gardening and nurturing flowers.
I like to wake up extra early in the morning and sip coffee (with 18% cream and two sweeteners) out of a huge ceramic mug and contemplate life … it was even more emotionally nourishing when I could snuggle with my precious side-kick Skruffi. She passed away on August 24th, 2015. She was 15 years of
age joy. She had the most gorgeous eyes … and … was even more beautiful on the inside.
I really dislike Val Kilmer (not that I know him personally!) but have firmly decided that I will not watch any more movies he stars in. I love Anthony Hopkins (wish I knew him personally!) and will make a point to see whatever he is cast in.
I discovered that food tastes the best with fresh ground pepper and sea salt … well maybe not toast.
I despise skiing and I love Italy.
I love to play board games with my family and I cherish all our family gatherings.
I wish I could start over in terms of parenting – I am humbled to recognize that I messed up my children’s lives with my perfectionism as much as my Dad messed up mine with alcoholism.
I love my home and I thoroughly love to be in it.
I acknowledge that attitude is more important to happiness than reality.
I still adore my GUCCI watch with all it’s interchangeable colored bezels.
I like that shorter hair doesn’t blow in your eyes as much.
I have gained 30 lbs since I got married … but I’ll buy bigger clothes before I’ll spend countless hours fighting mother nature in an attempt to stay as thin as the magazines suggest I should be.
I really, really, really like to laugh. One of my favorite quotes is “We do not laugh because we are happy, we are happy because we laugh” (William James).
I have become less talkative and more attentive with age.
I don’t like to read in bed. Or watch TV. I would never have a TV in my bedroom … unless I am in a lovely hotel.
I love a nice Malbec in the winter and an icy margarita in the hot summer.
I did NOT want a smart phone … but my husband bought me one at the suggestion of my daughters. I LOVE my smart phone.
Hearing my children and grandchildren laughing stirs my heart.
I love browsing through introspective and thought provoking websites/blog sites.
I can’t stay awake past 9:00pm to watch a movie.
You would all love my daughters if you got to meet them … they are so rich in character – I would LIKE them even if I didn’t LOVE them so much.
People have always told me I had a way with words …that I should write a book. Seems like a bit of a stretch … I’m still self-conscious about blogging.
But, here I am …with three blog sites … and completely surprised by how meaningful it is to me. You can also find some wonderings and wanderings at “You Can Live a Great Life Anyway …” or at “Better Because of You …”
Hoping to spark some great conversation …Karen