I Put Up a Wall …

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I put up a wall to keep you out … because I am wounded and fragile and afraid you will hurt me.

You see my wall and feel rejected.

You perceive my wall as a judgment or criticism of you.

The space between us becomes large and ominous … and … keeps us from truly seeing each other.

It keeps us from truly loving each other and meeting each others needs … which we could do and would do … if we weren’t looking at exactly the same thing and seeing something totally different.

If only we could see through the wall.

If only we could feel each others vulnerability.

But we don’t.

And so we both suffer … needlessly.

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There are times when we need to wall up,  but … not all the time, Karen

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  1. Susan
    Feb 19, 2016 @ 07:31:55

    This resonated deeply within my being, Karen, as I, too, had put up a wall, thinking that I was protecting myself and that no one else knew the wall was there. It is taking a long time to take the wall down, brick by brick, stone by stone. When I started, I was really surprised at the joy I had missed and I was really saddened. I am still taking the wall down and am still working at being alive to the moment and seeing the gifts in my beautiful world. I appreciate your deep wisdom as it brings light into the corners of my soul and shines darkness into cracks that I did not know existed.

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    • Karen Lanser
      Feb 19, 2016 @ 09:34:44

      Hi Susan,
      I am deeply touched by your sharing. I think so many of us have experienced exactly what you so articulately described. It takes immense courage to trust ourselves enough to begin removing the bricks. I honor you for being both brave and vulnerable … and … I trust you will find so many more extraordinary gifts as you continue to peek over the wall! Thank you again for sharing … I expect many heads are nodding as they will relate your experience! K ❤

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